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5 Bad Habits that RUIN Your Happiness

There are several bad habits that can block your happiness but here are the top five that I feel are the most damaging!


“The ability to love yourself is beautiful. When you really love yourself, you simply refrain from doing whatever comes in your path of you and your happiness. Self love shouldn’t be confused with self obsession though. Self love doesn’t mean that you value someone less than you but it simply implies you value yourself as much as you value others. Self love means you don’t allow anything to tamper with your peace of mind; self love means you don’t allow anyone to make you feel miserable; it means you strive to make a BETTER you everyday, every moment.” -Sai Tripathy Self love means you can be your own best friend and not need other people around. Self love is hard but it’s rewarding when you can still build yourself up in times when it feels like your world is falling apart. Self Love is the key to happiness. 


The more you complain, the unhappier you will be. When you’re constantly focusing on the negative perspective of situations and things, it’ll cost you your happiness and sometimes even cause you to be depressed. Gratitude will take you a long way in life! Be thankful for what you do have. Be thankful for where you are in your journey even if it’s not where you want to be right now. Every season serves a purpose. So whatever you’re going through or whatever you’re seeing from a negative perspective right now.. just remember that it’s all shaping and molding you into the person God intends for you to be. See it as an opportunity for growth within yourself and learn from it. When you choose to focus only on the bad things, you are really setting yourself up for never being content or happy. Practice Gratitude everyday!


Hanging with the wrong folks can mess you up and by wrong, I mean negative! Hanging with negative people has more of an impact on your life than you think. Make sure you connect with people who are going to build you up. If the people in your circle are intimidated when you make positive life changes politely ask them to go stand in somebody else’s circle. If the people in your circle keep punching you in your self-esteem kindly ask them to go stand in the next circle!! Surround yourself with people who make you happy.. people who make you laugh and help you when you’re in need. Make sure the people in your corner genuinely care and support you. They are the ones worth keeping in your life! Just like negative people can have an impact on your happiness, positive people can too! It’s all up to you. Be wise and be picky about the folks you choose to run with!! 


Some people are unhappy simply because they’re not happy with their outer appearance. Can I say something though? You have always been beautiful but if you are not satisfied with the way you look.. then do something about it. Let’s talk about weight since that’s what most people have a problem with – It won’t get better by chance. It gets better by change. Whether you aspire to lose weight or gain it, find a diet that works for you and stick by it. Join a gym if necessary. Go walk the trail at your city park. Join yoga or zumba classes. Do whatever works and seems most fitting and fun for you. Sometimes, it might hurt. It will take time. It will require dedication. It will require willpower. You will need to make healthy decisions. It requires sacrifice. You will need to push your body to its max. There will be temptation but I promise when you reach your goal, it will all literally be worth it !! 


One thing that will prevent you from happiness for sure is comparing yourself to other people. Don’t compare your life to others. That alone has the potential to make you miserable. Don’t do that. Your life is about breaking your own limits and outgrowing yourself to live your best life. You are not in competition with anyone else. Plan to outdo the person you were yesterday, not other people. Be who God created YOU to be, not who He created them to be. 

Every morning you have a new opportunity to become a happier version of yourself. Don’t let bad habits take that from you!

32 thoughts on “5 Bad Habits that RUIN Your Happiness

  1. Jessica this really was a brilliant post and holds SO much truth! I can be honest with you, I am not all that great with self love because of horrible things that occurred in my life when I was younger. Somethings are incredibly hard to let go because this is always in the back of my mind.

    I am one that absolutely hates complaining and complainers. I think that if there is something being complained about it’s important to make some changes.

    I learned at a young age to not be around the wrong and negative circles. I would walk away from a so-called friend because of negative issues that arose. I never wanted to be around the “wrong” crowd because bad things happen!
    I seriously LOVE reading your posts because they are always full of something that is lost in society today, truth!
    Thank you Jessica!!!

    1. Self Love is such an ongoing journey though!! No one will ever actually be perfect at it ! It’s just something that you have to practice at daily!

      Thank you for commenting and always being so sweet and supportive when you visit my blogs in both the present and past! I will forever love you!

  2. This is so true. I stay to myself, if I’m not with my son, I’m by myself, writing, or watching movies 🤷🏽‍♀️✅👍🏾👏🏾 I learned the hard way about hanging with the wrong crowd/negative people. But I learned, and since than, I’ve been doing great.

    1. That was a huge life lesson for me too! I still socialize to a certain extent but for the most part I’m to myself !! If we aren’t on the same mental level or your hustle/determination doesn’t match mine or even close to it then we really don’t have too much to talk about! I’ve grown to be like that and I don’t think it’s a bad thing either!
      Thanks for stopping by to read my post!

          1. The thing is… I am not afraid to be nobody. Are you? I don’t mean that in a rude way. I just mean to say that the human need for attention – to be something or someone to everyone – is debilitating to every human.

          2. I think we may be seeing it from a different perspective.. not a negative one, just a different one. I don’t need the opinions of other people to validate how I feel about myself. I’m also humble enough to not care about the “popularity” either if that’s what you’re getting at. I see it more from a positive perspective as in, “I am somebody even when everyone else has counted me out.” It’s confidence thing. My apologies if I offended you in any way. Have a great day, KT!

          3. You did not. I like to make people think, and I was hopeful you would respond positively because it’s the conversation we just had that’s important. I know why you smile like that. You don’t have to convince me. But, lot’s of people, as you know, need convincing!

          4. Lol well good! I’m just glad you I didn’t upset you! However, you do ask very mind provoking questions and honestly, that’s not a bad thing at all!

  3. I think there can be a benefit to complaining, if only to vent and get any pent up feelings off one’s chest but it becomes a problem when one stays in that place and only complains without making changes to the situation. Slippery slope, for sure.

    And I definitely agree with you about taking the steps needed and being dedicated to changing one’s physical self if it’s important to them.

    Great post!

    1. Thank you Mykki!
      I agree! It’s important to vent and get those feelings off your chest but it’s not okay to stay there in that mindset !! Thanks so much for reading and showing my blog some love! ♥️♥️ I’m on my way to yours now!

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